OK so root of all evil may be a little extreme but there are some major issues with FB that I don't think our (my) generation realizes. This past weekend I decided to delete my FB in my own version of detox...crazy right?! And until just a second ago I have only told my parents, 2 friends and my bf...i did decide to send a text to ppl I care about so they would be able to see this and know i didn't forget about them or block them haha...So in this post I'm just going to list a few issues, comments, and concerns I have with FB and then get into why I deleted mine (temporarily)...
1. This is probably the #1 reason we all have a fb...stalking! We stalk our friends, exs, family, current loves, enemies, celebrities, random strangers and their cats...it's all so crazy and obsessive. The way I view it now is; if I am not important enough for them to stalk me, then they are not important enough for me to stalk. Why should I idolize you in some creepy way by knowing your every move & thought if you don't even realize we are friends on fb?? I can guarantee you that not a soul even noticed that i deleted my fb (that's how important I was to them!) And let me get one thing straight, this isn't a "poor pity me, no one likes me post"...just stating a sad reality that I don't think 99% of us realize. All the people that feel its life or death to inform people that they are at Walmart or going to bed or ate a steak, I hate to break it to you but no one cares! And if they did you would be texting them about it not fb...Now realize probably every person on fb has at least 1 to 2 ppl that stalk them religiously for their own reasons (laughter, jealousy, love, hate,drama) so those people may realize i am gone but of course they aren't goin to say anything bc then that would mean they specifically searched for me...and as us good creeps know that is the worst thing that could happen haha
Still not convinced? Check this out then...I found a random girl on fb from outta town(wouldnt know the girl if she punched me in the face) and from just her fb I can tell you all this info about her: full name, phone number, car she drives, address, where she works, when and where she is through out the day, bf's name, email address, family members, tons of photos of inside her house and what she looks like, where she went to school and other random facts...thats a helluva lot of info that a stranger can find out! I don't even like giving guys at the bar my real name & number and they don't even know any of that stuff about me!!!
2. The #2 reason ppl have fb would be close to a tie with #1 and that would be (drum roll please) JEALOUSY! We have them because of it and to create it... girls especially! We have this obsession to update about our new bf & how cute he is, where we went out to eat, how sweet he is...we take 40,000 pics together, write on each others walls so in hopes my ex sees it, his ex sees it, and all of the women in the world see how lucky I am and so i can rub it in their face...how sad is that? Yes, it is human nature to want to have people envy us but really who are we impressing?? Other ppl could careless about who your dating, what your kid is doing and what your doing at that moment...unless it has drama and we can all gossip about what you meant by something or if your single again...big deal...if anything we use it to make funny of other ppl bc of what they will post (pathetic, right?!) But I can bet EVERY single person reading this has done this at some point or another...myself included...
3. I deleted mine bc I want my life back!!!!!!! Ever since smart phones and apps and constant connections became available we don't life in the "real world". I know, I know I sound like our parents but if you tried it you would understand...I now have time and the focus to read a book, play with my puppies, enjoy the people that I'm with, when I'm with them...&& the best part when talking with friends I only have stories about my life to talk about...not random people I added to be nosey... I miss the days of middle school when the weekends started and I couldn't wait to come home and hangout with my parents(nerd) and watch TGIF on ABC channel and saturday morning cartoons...those were the days! i have no clue what my pathetic enemies are doing bc I took myself out of the equation (very adult of me! hehe)...In reality I had around 350 friends and out of those I actually have relationships with about 5! and most everyone I have on fb I would avoid if I ran into them at walmart or wouldn't have a thing to say to them...And all of you with 1200 friends...your not fooling anyone, in fact your probably worse off bc you need some kind of ego boost thinking that all these ppl care about you and like you...i hate to break the bad news to ya...but they don't
4. Now on to the
actual truth of why I did it (this is really hard to write about)...3 of my super close friends know the whole story and how emotionally affected I have been by past events in the last few months and for my personal health I have done this bc I need to re-evaluate things and find myself again (corny i know)...I'm not going to explain what happened bc im not going down that road anymore...i would like to think that ppl like my Momma, Brandon, Des, Haylee and Tanya know that the person I have been lately isn't the true me...and it makes me super sad that I have been that way...but extremely happy to know I am healing :) I am an extremely strong, happy, and smart girl and I will
NOT be bullied around by pathetic low lifes anymore....I will never know probably why they choose to do that to me but I would like to think the guilt has been enough punishment...i have my flaws but I'm a pretty great friend and there's not a damn thing I wouldn't do for the people i love...I'm sorry to whoever did this & that you felt it was necessary to display such immaturity and insecurity...also, I know who it was...I found out my answer not too long ago...i haven't told a soul so your evil ways are our little secret...your welcome && well played darling
There have been many obstacles I had to climb to get to this point but I'm very happy that I did...like the great Britney Spears sang "I'm stronger than yesterday!" :) I know that the people I love and that love me are proud too...
people only wanna bring you down because you're doing something right! :)
Thanks everyone for reading! I love yall!! xoxo whit
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