Run and hide your crazy, & start actin like a lady!

Ok so one of my favorite songs at the moment is called " Mama's broken heart". Here is a clip of it:

  Go and fix your make up, girl it’s just a break up
Run and hide your crazy and start actin’ like a lady
'Cause I raised you better, gotta keep it together
Even when you fall apart
But this ain’t my mama’s broken heart

Can’t get revenge and keep a spotless reputation
Sometimes revenge is a choice you gotta make
My mama came from a softer generation
Where you get a grip and bite your lip just to save a little face

Love the song and love the meaning behind it! More or less it says either act with class or be a crazy bitch. Now as we all know every woman can get straight up crazy! No denying...own it! But my bigger issue is that we don't have enough women wanting to be ladies... Let me clarify...when I say lady I don't mean "Go to the kitchen and cook me dinner!" kinda women...its not the 1950s...but what I mean is lets have a little pride in the fact that we are indeed ladies!

Coming from a small town, everyone knows everything and if they don't I can bet ya they will find out in 20 mins or less. We know good news travels fast, but bad news travels like a wild fire in the middle of July! Human nature is to want to know everyones business and then to have an opinion on it..Im extremely guilty of this...my theory is im smart than you and will tell you how to feel and what to do (that's how it works right?!?) well with this fast spreading drama everybody goes off of what so and so said instead of the source...and even the sources can be tainted bc there are always 2 sides to every story dears! If you didn't see it, hear it or touch it yourself then only believe about half of it! and then always judge what source your hearing it from! 

but anyways...women have stopped being ladies! We run our mouths, get in fist fights, wear skanky clothes, pierce our bodies, get tattoos,cuss, sleep with any guy that we think we love (or not love for that matter) and we don't care... and let me be the first to say I have done it all!!  I'm not above anyone here! but at the end of the day i personally don't think its right...

Now I'm going to go to a man's view for this part...my bf, b, has told me all about what most guys want in a girl...and no its not the same for every guy and relationship but I have heard this over and over many times so maybe it will help you out...idk maybe you think im an idiot by now...probably so!

1. Appearance is everything! How you feel about yourself shows by your expression of clothes, jewelry, hair, makeup etc... if you're wearing shorts that look like they are meant for a 12 yr old and your tits hanging out, then don't be upset that ppl stare...you are letting it all hangout for attention so you're getting it honey! If you look like you just got out of a 3 day binge with your hair everywhere and no makeup....then basically your saying idk what i look like and I will probably embarrass you at some point bc I won't look the part at important events. Feel comfortable with what you wear...own it and the world is yours!

2. Men want a lady in public and a slut in the sheets..not the other way around! Girls have this sad image in their minds that if they look a certain way and act a certain way that men will find you sexy...well ladies they do only when they are 3 sheets to the wind and you look easy...Guys truly dont wanna hear about all your nasty adventures in bed...ever heard of the saying "Don't kiss and tell"? Save it for girls night when your comparing dirty deeds...men wanna think that they are the great conquer that taught you everything so let him think that...and plus put yourself in his shoes...do you really wanna know all about what he did to his ex gf?!? if you answered hell no then guess what he dont either! Men dont express emotions very well but don't mean they don't have them!

3. Fighting... its never pretty...A lady fights with her words and mind...never her fists... I find this completely degrading if you will when women talk about fighting...now don't get me wrong sometimes the occasion calls for it but 9 times outta 10, it dont...besides what does it prove??! at the end you're both sore and now hate each other even more...no one wins...my bf has had his past of fighting and isn't afraid to stand up to someone about it and I have asked him before if that's a downfall of mine because I don't like conflict...he said no he prefers it...guys want someone that they can take care of and to know they are needed, not some mouthy, drama starting bar fly if you will....now im not saying to be a door mat and take constant bullying but if someone is staring at your man, take it as a compliment and move on...you starting drama only proves you care...

4. Tattoos and piercings...i have em and i love em...had my nose pierced for awhile...b told me he hated em but i did it anyways...thought i looked badass...let me tell nothing is badass about having a red, infected nose all the time...piercings in moderation are awesome but certain ones i find to be extreme...if you like them then more power to ya but a lot of ppl get them for a certain image...and you gotta think what that image is... if you have your nipples pierced and your man didnt ask for them then that screams slut! im sorry but thats my opinion... if you get stuff like that on your own and start showing them off to every new dude you met...guess what he knows he ain't the first and he won't be the last! Keep it tasteful! We wear clothes to hide those body parts...dont do something to them that makes you seem like you show it off all the time!

In conclusion, ladies lets class it up as a whole! Leave some to the imagination, I guarantee you will get more flies with honey than vinegar and you will get more guys being sweet than being a nasty ho!

Like I said before, to each their own! If you don't agree with what I said then I respect that! just my random thought of the day :)  laters loves! xoxo whit